..::..:: My Contemplation ::
This particular prayer section of the rosary, the fifth joyful mystery of “The finding of the child Jesus in the temple”, made me contemplate:
- parental responsibilities, and
- familial bonds and duties.
Would you believe that doing things right all the time with the most righteous of results can be extraordinarily selfish? Remember, life is too short to be learning from all your own mistakes and thus, the most complete learning also comes from learning from the mistakes of others. The people closest to you are worth learning from… or should I say, should be worth learning from i.e. your family.
I now start to perceive that those who need scores of 100/100 (which we all need from time to time, if not only for our self-esteem!) are those who are just starting off (or re-starting), it is actually a bit of a luxury to be able to make mistakes and to learn from them or to enhance the learning of those you love and care about by high-lighting the more commonly-occurring, errors and pitfalls in life.
The caution here would be learning too many mistakes and what-not-to-do because it can create confusion between what is right and wrong; what is enjoyable and what is not; what there is more of and what is rare; what is restricting and what is freedom – these all play havoc on thoughts and living life enjoyably, never mind correctly.
This may seem peculiar, but it takes a lot of effort, patience and above all else, intelligence to achieve mistakes for the right objectives and results. That is not to say that we should not live our own mistakes and make our own mistakes, but it means that we must allow space for errors to occur and not stamp out every small flicker and flame of error. Some errors, though, are dangerous.
Wariness, scepticism, cynicism and caution are all qualities to be learnt especially for the curious of mind and body… which many youngsters are, if they are to learn and to grow up to be intelligent. To be (somewhat) foolish is a way for the young to learn for themselves, to be courageous is something parents must learn to do when guiding the young.
Real life experiences worth learning from are actually quite scarce and rare, but they are available. Some say, you get what you put into it. That is, your experience is only what you make of it.
Would we really need a massive disaster in order to learn? No, we do not. Hence the higher-ability of contemplation, but again, many things in moderation. A child has yet to understand contemplation and thus cannot make the most of this method – not to mention it can be quite boring. Also, contemplation is an internalised and interior method, but what the world lacks is enough of the externalised and exterior stuff that we can truly experience as people with sensory organs for the tangible e.g. sight, hearing, taste, touch, smell. All these senses put together create a super-rich experience from which to learn. Yes, at first there is sensory overload!
First, contemplation is a method to obtain, then a skill to train and enhance and then eventually an ability, or skill, to use and exploit. It really aids in learning from your experiences and also to save yourself from having to live life far too fully. To be obliged to max out every time is really quite poor of mind.
Anyway, the correct perception of a missing child is bad news – so it is. However, a child must learn the ups and downs, the goods and the bads of losing their way. Being able to navigate is something still alarmingly difficult.
A child’s experiences do have to be watched over.
The Fifth Joyful Mystery :
The finding of the child
Jesus in the temple
Mary, Mother of our families, in the struggles of our daily lives we do not always understand one another. Help us to respect the uniqueness of each person and to find God even in those things we cannot understand. Give light to all parents who in your Name exercise responsibility for their children. Amen.